Sometimes it is best to hold your peace, act and negotiate calmly, even if you are feeling differently. Living authentically and establishing a sense-of-self through differentiation-of-self and mindfulness enables you live well and have successful relationships.
Being honest, being caring and above all being fair. Fair to your self — being authentic to your beliefs while maintaining an attitude of care for others. Clearly stating your case without being selfish, vindictive or sarcastic.
When you are being assertive you are showing that you believe in yourself while maintaining respect and concern for other people’s beliefs.
Feedback to other people — what you think they mean, what you heard, and how that helps you understand where they are coming from. Nodding and using a neutral or affirming tone of voice communicates that you acknowledge the other persons existence and right to be heard.
Encourage a balanced situation — when you are talking to people — make the territory neutral. Sit or stand beside them or sit directly opposite but mirror their position.
Assertiveness counselling allows you to be yourself, allows you to ask for what you want, allows you to be heard.
Counselling assertiveness training is one of the most successful ways you can get out of life the things you really want.
People who are too passive can sometimes act out in a ‘passive-aggressive’ way.
Being passive- aggressive can sometimes mean feeling inadequate and living in fear of competition.
This person might fear success (self-sabotage) or be controlling and tyrannical.
Passive-aggressive people withhold vital information the group needs to complete a task or project.
They make excuses for things not being done and rarely will give a straight answer to a question.