You will know when you are ready to see a counsellor.
“The person is pretty much what he says he is.” (Hall & Lindzey, 1966, p.498)
Depending on what things you want to talk about will result in the kind of help provided. Most people like to learn assertiveness skills and like to feel a greater sense of self.
Counselling can help all kinds of issues. Sometimes people want behaviour changes; others like to delve into the meaning of life. In many cases re-telling the stories we have been told (or have we have been telling ourselves over many years) can make significant changes to how we feel about our future and ourselves.
Many families have patterns of behaviour that have negative outcomes for all members of the family… from great-grandmothers to tiny babies. Family therapy is helpful here and this can be carried out with individuals, couples or whole families.
The counselling I offer is mainly directed toward —
If you find things you want unattainable what do you say to yourself? Some people have a belief that they will never succeed and so expect failure. They see failure at every turn.
Turning these thought patterns around so the expectation is success makes huge differences to their lives.
Counselling and psychotherapy can start this process and teach you to do this yourself.
The way people act is often the way they expect themselves to act. As children we assume things we are told by our parents are true. Only years later do we discover that there are other realities.