Couples counselling for one
Where relationships between couples in marriage or de facto or casual partnerships go wrong and one or the other do not wish to address things… that’s why counselling can be Couples Counselling for ONE
Are there good reasons why this may be so?
- Sometimes one person things there are issues, or
- Some people think the problem is with the other, and
- “It’s not my fault” thinking;
- Many “failed” relationships;
- Sometimes people are “not meant to be together” for one reason or many…
- …and so on… there are many reasons for issues between partners not being addressed.
Many couples prefer to remain in a dysfunctional partnership for fear of being alone, breaking up a family, disappointing themselves or their partner or their family.
For a therapist this area is rich in possibility where couples are unaware of things they can do to help their connection.
Couples counselling for one…… hopefulness…
When one person changes others will inevitably move… the fear for many is the other may “move on”.
It is important to realise that one or two sessions are probably not enough to make big changes, although there may be some shifts, long entrenched habits take some time to change.
The trouble with this… most people want a quick fix and are not prepared to work toward being better in relationships.
“She is the one that needs this… I don’t really need to be here..”
How many sessions did this person attend? ONE. The other partner attended seven sessions over the following year and slowly changes occured. Sadly, not enough change to keep her in the relationship.
This need not be you. You can develop skills to help you make your relationship better and maintain a happiness and peace that you begin to enjoy.