How can I have a great relationship?
If you want to be in love every day you will have to fall in love every day.
Finding time and making the effort to establish build and maintain a great relationship is probably an important item on your agenda. The secret is ou:. You have to find time. You have to make the effort. It is greatly rewarding.
Building your relationship and maintaining your relationship are ongoing processes. Essential to a successful relationship is self-knowledge: knowing yourself, how you feel, how you communicate, why you think the way you do.
Knowing the difference between falling in love and loving is an art to master.
With this knowledge you are aware of your own strengths and weaknesses and how you can can best act to communicate how you feel and think to others. Of course, other people are in much the same position as you. They are also attempting to let you know how they feel and think. They are searching for clues as to how to communicate well with you.
Knowing how other people may perceive your actions and words has to be carefully considered. Although all humans have some pretty common characteristics, we are all remarkably individual. So what is meaningful to you may not be meaningful to others or may mean something entirely different.
Falling in love introduces you to the possibility of deep and meaningful relationship with the other.
First, you need a deep and meaningful relationship with yourself – then others can connect with you deeply and meaningfully.
Counselling and psychotherapy sessions can help you discover the things that are interfering with you having a great relationship. It is disconcerting to find that it is probably what you are doing which hinders your progress. All unconscious because if you know what these things are you can choose to change how you act or react.
Purposefully building a strong connection and relationship is a mindful excersise.
Purposefully establishing a strong and meaningful connection is a mindful excercise.
Working with you the process is to change your reactions to responses. I know its just one word and it may not seem to be a big deal… except that it is a big deal to those around you. When others experience you in a distraught state, jumping at everything they say, reacting angrily to everyday things, thay will grow tired… and what’s more, they will react back.
By learning to “count to ten” as Dale Carnegie famously suggested decades ago (and Greek philosophers and Buddhist masters eons ago) you are seen as a calm and considerate person. Someone to be welcomed rather than tolerated.