How to Have a Great Relationship
Every day I hear people asking how they can have a great relationship. I always answer with the obvious and suggest that the best relationship one can ever have is the one we have with ourselves.
It seems such a trite thing to say given that most people come into counselling with the stated goals to “communicate better”, “improve intimacy”, “stop fighting”, stop arguing”, “get on better”, renew our friendship”, “move on from past hurts”… and so on.
All of these, and many other marital/couple/relationship problems are greatly helped by the “knowing of self”.
Knowing yourself is probably the most important step toward achieving a “successful” relationship with another person, group, organisation… which includes your family and your intimate partner.
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you help yourself to find your true self.
The process takes time and effort and is not short of difficulty and joy. The difficulty comes from facing the aspects of yourself you may not like. Just as we find things in other people we may not like there are also the same or similar aspects of ourselves we may have trouble owning. Jung called the the shadow.
As well as the shadow we have great joy when we discover aspects of ourselves we may have overlooked and find greatly beneficial toward having a thoroughly well lived life.