Marriage and Love

If marriage is so desirable how come many are failing… why do people not stick it out?

Marrying for love is so yesterday.

In the Western world the last hundred years has seen the emergence of marrying ofr love and marriages failing. Nearly fifty percent of marriage end in divorce and many that do not end in divorce exist in misery.

Why? Many people have expectations that are blown out of the water after a few short years of living with the man or woman of our dreams.

Secretly I always imagine Father Christmas will bring me what i want on the 25th of December; a knight will ride in and sweep me off my feet; the wining lottery ticket is in my pocket; politicians are there out of a sense of duty and respect… and so on.

Imagine my surprise on waking up?

Weddings are giagantic and lawyers are making a mint out of the breakups.

Being free to marry for loveonly raises the degree of expectation… and the disappointment.

Expecting your mate to remain in prostine condition for the whole of your life is madness. Not what you expected Buck. I’m thinking she wasn’t expecting it either.

The gay community is not to be left out here… although daily same sex couples are gaining the right to be married they are also realising that once they hit forty, even if there are no children, the waist does expand. God knows the gym boys are feeling pinch of the tights at each lift.

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