— I came to Phil in utter despair.
My self-esteem was at rock-bottom, I’d lost control over my negative emotions, and I was inflicting emotional chaos on my loved ones.
Unfortunately, through this process, I lost a significant relationship, causing a further spiral into grief and self-loathing.
Phil helped talk me through the initial turmoil of the loss, the most distressing event of my life so far, and eventually regain perspective and hope.
He then taught me the importance of fortifying myself with a strong sense of self, independent of others’ opinions and wants, and helped me on the path to building one.
Through the concept of differentiation, I’ve come to better understand my emotions and check myself from self-defeating behaviours, and am of the path to finding self-esteem.
It’s been an intense and often painful period of reflection, guided by Phil, but one that’s been life-changing.
I feel I’ve managed to turn the lowest ebb of my life into changes and lessons that will better equip me to manage myself, my relationships and my life choices in future, and ultimately live a happier and fuller life than I’ve been able to in the past.